For as long as I can remember, I dreamed of working at a school. And when I finally landed my job, I thought I’d stay there forever. I loved the atmosphere, my coworkers, and most of all, the kids. I even had the same schedule as my own kids, which made balancing work and family a breeze.
But as we all know, life doesn’t always go according to plan.
Throughout the course of my adult life, I went from being a self-sufficient employee to a stay-at-home mom to a single mom, each transition bringing its own set of challenges. But, I really felt like I had conquered the whole single mom thing. I was holding it together, albeit things were tight, I was doing it.
To be honest, that’s all I needed. After years of needing someone else to support me, I needed so badly to feel self sufficient again, confident I didn’t need anyone else to get by.
But life sure does have a funny way of coming full circle.
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The single life suited me just fine for a few years. Then, I met HIM. My guy. The guy that stood by me and watched me rebuild my life. The guy that was there, not to take care of me, but to walk the journey WITH me. He offered his help, but I stubbornly refused( because I could, of course do it by myself). I didn’t NEED him.
This amazing man and I decided that even though we were both over 40, we wanted to have a baby together. And I was right back where I was before, with the decision to continue working or stay at home with and raise our baby.
Never, never, never did I think my decision would be to continue working. It just wasn’t what I planned. I ALWAYS wanted to be the one home raising my kids. I wanted to be there for all their milestones. But, when we talked about me staying home with the baby, there I sat, with tears streaming down my face telling him I wanted to go back to work.
No, I NEEDED to go back to work.
I had this overwhelming fear of being back in the same situation I was in 10 years ago. I didn’t want him to have the sole financial responsibility of me, my two boys AND our baby. I didn’t want financial pressure to build resentment between the two of us, as it had in my previous relationship. I didn’t want to depend on someone else again, after finally proving to myself that I didn’t need anyone else.
It felt like taking a step back, and that was like a punch in the gut.
I contemplated this decision for MONTHS. Talked it over with friends, and family. It was a common theme at my counseling sessions. But the question that finally gave me clarity was this- “Which decision will you regret more?”
And I had my answer. I knew without a doubt, I would regret not being home with my baby.
But, I also knew, I needed to calm the fear inside me.
The one that said it would make me feel weak to be dependent on someone else again. So, I did what any motivated momma would do. I found a solution. I decided, yes, I would stay home and raise our son, but I needed to find a way to be both present for my child and financially independent.
So, I started my blog. I had gotten encouraging feedback on my writing, so I thought that would be a good path for me. Don’t get me wrong, it has been amazing. I found a tribe of supporters. I shared the ugly parts of my life and helped women feel less alone, but even though I wanted to continue to spread my message of hope, I wasn’t successfully monetizing my blog yet. It wasn’t solving the problem I had initially set out to solve, my financial independence.
I realized I needed to pivot. I had been following a woman on Facebook( for an entire year), watching her journey with high ticket affiliate marketing, I found my solution. I wouldn’t stop sharing my journey, I would do both, share my journey AND help women in the process. She offered me the same thing I’m offering you now, an opportunity to change your life. I stepped out of my comfort zone and took the 15 Day Business Builder Challenge.
I realized that I already had a business; I just needed to learn how to make it successful. My goal was to help other women achieve financial independence and regain their sense of self-worth. I knew firsthand how much of an impact financial stress could have on one’s life, and I wanted to empower others to break free from that cycle.
The lack of finances is what kept me stuck for far too long. Can you believe how many people live lives they hate as if there’s no alternative? Guess what? There IS an alternative. And I’m sharing it with you now.
What have you got to lose? Nothing more than being in the exact same spot next year.
This is your chance. Your chance to change the outlook of your future. Will you step up and take the challenge that could potentially change your life? I hope so.
Because I did. And I would do it again in a heartbeat.
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