I saw my boyfriend and toddler napping on the couch… And felt nothing but love. So why is it so damn hard to give myself permission to rest? The short answer? I’ve been conditioned to feel like my worth is based on my productivity. Last week at my counseling appointment, I had been feeling pretty overwhelmed with […]
Why I refused his money-
I used to think being financially supported by a man was just the way motherhood was. Hell, my dad went to work and took care of our family while my mom stayed home with us. Boy, was I wrong. As an adult, I now realize that the Avon, Tupperware, and babysitting my mom did was her […]
Wealthy people never do this chore-
Rich people buy time, poor people buy things. Yeah, yeah. We’ve all heard it said, but what the hell does it actually mean? Real life example coming right up. I bought a house almost 5 years ago. It didn’t have a dishwasher. I really didn’t care. I was used to having my sink piled high […]
Driveways are for crying, right?
*Trigger warning- pregnancy loss* I remember sitting in my driveway, tears rolling down my cheeks. Mike and I had just gotten home from our ultrasound. I was 20 weeks pregnant. But the last 10 weeks had been far from easy. I had experienced serious complications and we were afraid we might lose the baby. As […]
This is about you, not them
Do you know how much time I wasted focusing my energy on someone else? I was raised that way. I modeled what I saw. I was taught that there was value in helping others. And of course there is, but I say wasted now, because I finally learned that you can’t pour into other people […]
New Beginnings
The birthday of my youngest son signifies new beginnings, possibilities, growth and healing. 5 years ago, I made a choice that sent my life on a different trajectory. I took a stance and prioritized myself, my convictions, my safety and my wellbeing. Before that, I had lost sight of my dreams I had lost sight […]